I thought he was my endgame. Then, during the seven years we were together, he cheated on me – twice. The second time, it was over.
At first, I couldn’t get over my anger at his cheating. After I forgave his first trespass, how could he betray my trust yet again?
I did doubt myself for a bit (maybe I hadn’t done enough to meet his needs?), but after some hard self-reflection, I realised that there is simply no excuse to cheat, let alone to do so repeatedly.
Because I’d known him for so long, I’d assumed that I knew all of him, that he couldn’t break my trust.
It was a hard pill to swallow, but I had to confront and acknowledge my own blind spots.
LESSONS ON LOVE AND LIFE
If I could go back in time now, would I still pick this path, knowing where it would lead?
Despite my regrets, I can’t say I wouldn’t. After all, this path gave me my children, whom I love dearly.
Instead of regrets, I’m choosing to focus instead on the invaluable lessons I’ve learnt on this rocky road.
Last year, I took on a new role to spearhead the launch of TanTan Tribe, a new dating application that focuses on compatibility and authenticity.
One of my favourite features on the app is for users to identify their own red flags and the ones they refuse to tolerate in potential partners.
This has made me reflect on the decisions and choices I’ve made in my past relationships. I feel that I understand people’s and my own differing ideas and views on love and relationships a lot better now.
