WHAT IF A LOVED ONE IS SUICIDAL?
“Have you been thinking about suicide?” Asking this simple and direct question is key to creating a safe space for someone to open up, said SOS’ Ms Chua.
Dr Teo said that many people worry that asking this question may “plant the idea”, but it actually shows that you care and opens the door for help.
“Encourage them to seek professional help immediately, and if possible, offer to accompany them. Check in with them regularly to remind them that they are not alone in their struggles,” he added.
There are warning signs to look out for: talk of death or suicide, expressions of hopelessness or feeling trapped, withdrawal from family, friends or activities.
They may also unexpectedly get their affairs in order, such as giving away possessions or writing a suicide note.
Social media posts can also offer clues.
“Pay attention to their online behaviours – what they like, comment on, follow or post. If you see someone posting status updates, photos or videos that suggest emotional distress or reacting to posts that promote negative behaviours, these may be some warning signs,” said IMH’s Dr Lu.
If someone does not want to talk, encourage them to seek help.
“Let them know that seeking help is not a sign of weakness and everyone deserves support,” said Dr Lu.
“You can offer practical support, such as offering to accompany them for their appointments, if necessary. You can also explore what coping resources they have tried so far and what they found helpful.”
But don’t promise to keep suicidal thoughts a secret, she added.
“Tell them you would like to be there for them, but you need to involve others, like a trusted adult.”
